Do you want to win back an Aries ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend? Here’s something, you may want to read:

The Aries as your ex: When an Aries decides they are through with a relationship, moving mountains won’t win this person back. They are adamantly and stubbornly committed to standing behind their decision. They can approach the subject of breaking up with an attitude that is cold, uncomfortably blunt, and to the point. They may come off as arrogant, egotistic, and domineering. The Aries as a dumper doesn’t mince their words. It is next to impossible to win the Aries back! They will not concede and will stay in the game longer than anyone else. Trying to convince, coerce, beg, rationalize, plead, or manipulate the Aries is a waste of time. Usually the Aries has mentally abandoned the relationship long before their mate learns of it. No sense arguing with them, for the Aries will always have the last word! Their callous, “me-first” attitude can cut you to the bone. Once an Aries has made the determination to end the relationship, then to them it is over. No if’s, and’s, or but’s. When an Aries gets determined to do something, watch out! — Nothing will stand in their way!

Aries tend to fall in love hard and fast, and fall out of love just as hard and fast! Their turn-offs are those who tend to dwell on self-pitying habits. Don’t complain about your health to this one — they won’t appreciate your aches and pains! Along those lines, keep conversation to a light minimum. Aries do not appreciate long, in-depth discussions, or philosophical rantings!

Play hard to get, as Aries people appreciate the chase almost as much (if not more) than the conquest. Be a team player.

The Aries as yourself: If the dumped Aries is determined to get their mate back they will stop at nothing in order to achieve their goal. They are headstrong , bold, aggressive, courageous, and assertive. They thrive in the challenge and sometimes enjoy more the actual fight itself than winning what they are fighting for. The Aries is well prepared to do the battle to win back the object of their affection, and will not relax until they have won the battle. Which they usually do…but at what cost? On the other hand, if the Aries has decided that it is for the best that the relationship does end they will jump into their new life with vim and vigor, eager to experience the c>hange. Aries are not only unafraid of stepping onto new terrain, the challenge of taking on the unknown is heaven on Earth for them. Most likely you will not see the recently-dumped Aries moping around at home on a Saturday night, but out avidly roping the stars eagerly looking for new heavens. They approach the unknown with initiative, courage, and determination. An Aries is fearless and spirited.

(source: aboutyourbreakup.com)

Remember that, just because someone does not love you the way you want them to be does not mean they do not love you with all their soul. 

The first time I heard about Divorce Party was when I watched a recent episode of the Tyra Banks Show. 

Breaking-up with someone whom you dated for months or years can really be painful. How much more if you had started a family with them? I have never been through such thing but obviously it must be a really hard choice to make especially if kids are involved. One guest at the show stated tha she had known that the marriage was no longer that good after 3 years but then she stayed with the husband for another 15 years. 

The episode started with the women doing something therapeutic to let go of their excess baggages. One of the guest cut her wedding pictures into pieces, another had shredded her marriage license and the other girls did similar symbolic acts of moving on. 

Amy Botwinick, author of the book “Congratulations on Your Divorce” was also present at the show to give some advice to the newly single ladies. 

A friend once told me that when she falls in love, she sees to it that she keeps her priorities balance. Relationship should not hinder our growth buit should motivate us to become better. I think I should heed her advice. I took this short quiz from blogthings to see how I am like when in love. I am pretty happy with the results. 

Even though I was born decades later when this song became very popular, I can very much relate to this 1964 hit song at the moment. If you are reading this post,  I just want to let you know that my heart is singing “”How Sweet It Is (To Be Loved by You)”. ( Actually,  I don’t have any idea if he even read my blog but for sure he knows I am blogging A LOT.)

I am not usually this sweet but right now, I don’t care if you think I am wearing my heart on my sleeve. Thanks for being sweet as candy, sweet as can be!

While waiting for a friend at a bookstore, I came across a book written by Bo Sanchez. The title How To Find Your One True Love caught my attention. Since the book was not sealed and my friend sent me an sms that she would be late, I started browsing the pages. I did not even notice the time, but I was able to finish reading the book while standing in the corner of the book shelf.  It was the best dating book that I have read since boy Meets Girl ( by  Joshua Harris).

An excerpt from Bo ‘s book “HOW TO FIND YOUR ONE TRUE LOVE”

Debunking the Myths That Are Driving You Crazy

This article isn’t for teenagers only. Falling in love happens to the young and the not-so-young. (Did you see42-year-old Tom Cruise jump up and down Oprah’s couch because of Katie?) It happens to everyone. Fat, thin, tall, short, intelligent, uneducated,holy, not so holy, dark, white, yellow, green? it doesn’t really matter.All of us fall in love.And we get stuck in myths that drive us absolutely crazy.My goal is to debunk these myths and convince you not to believe in them.Let’s begin?

MYTH 1: LOVE WILL CONQUER ALL

Let me qualify.This is such a tricky myth. Because love —– as defined by the Bible—— will conquer all. But love —— as defined by glazed-eyed lovers—– will not. If you believe in this myth, you might do the following:You overlook major obstacles in your relationship.

Everyone you know is wondering why you chose that creature from outerspace as your boyfriend. Your bestfriends are telling you to get rid ofhim. Your family is telling you to throw him out of a running vehicle.Aling Rosa of the sari-sari store across the street is telling you to lacehis drink with poison.But you won’t ——— because you’re in love. That’s why there are songsentitled, “you and me against the world”.

Your best buds comment, ‘but he’s been jobless for the past three years!”And you say, “He’s free-spirited. He feels boxed in when he’s in theoffice. ‘(in other words, he’s undisciplined, lazy bum.)Your officemates say, ‘He flirts with other women constantly!’ and yousay, ‘No, he’s just friendly.’ (in other words, he’s a pervert)Your cousins say, ‘He’s taking drugs, He’s got needle marks all over hisarm. And you say, ‘No, he’s into cross stitching.’

You overstay in toxic relationships, believing that your love will changehim. The wedding doesn’t transform anyone? Even if three Popes officiate thewedding. The person you’ll march with into the church will be the same person you’ll march with out of the church. He doesn’t change one bit. In fact, the marriage makes the hidden more obvious. If he was selfish before he got married, he will be even more selfishafter the wedding. If he was hypercritical before he got married, he’lleven be more vile and prolific with his criticisms after wedding. Here’sthe truth: You need more than feelings of love to make a relationshipwork. You need mature character, total commitment and a minimum level ofcompatibility. Especially compatibility in the area of values and mission in life. I hear people say, ‘We’re compatible. Our names begin with the same letter J. Myname is Julie and his name is Julio. We’re both born in July.

“Wow. That’s so deep, I want to cry.

MYTH 2 : WHEN IT”S TRUE LOVE YOU WILL KNOW THE MOMENT YOU MEET THE OTHER PERSON

I’m sure you’ve had this experience before.You are in a crowded room. You’re surrounded by boring, noisy chatterwhen, suddenly, this gorgeous guy enters the door. Your eyes meet.Instantly, time stands still. The universe grinds to a halt. Except for this attractive man in front of you, everything in your vision becomes a giant blur. The hubbub of the crowd becomes a soft muffle and, from out of nowhere, you here gentle violin music from the background.

One week later, he’s your boyfriend. A few weeks later, you discover that your boyfriend’s a pathological liar,buried in credit card debt, borrows money from all his girlfriends (you’rehis eight in six months).Your mind says, ‘Dump him’.Your heart says, ‘But it was love at first sight!’

Here are the consequences ? You become so focused on the magical first moment, you become blind to thedark side of the relationship.Six out of seven days, you’re fighting with your boyfriend. But you can’tgive him up because you met each other in such a magical moment. Your car keys fell and he picked it up, and then your eyes met, you smelled his deodorant, and you dropped your keys again ??How can you not be meant fore ach other?You become a love-at-first-sight junkie that you could miss out on the’real thing’. One intelligent woman told me, ‘Bo, there’s this guy who’s courting me. He’s okay. He’s kind, he’s responsible, he has a good job??.’”I could hear a ‘but’ coming ,” I said.”But there are no sparks!” she bit her lip.”No violin music playing in the background huh?”"None. When I see him, the background music I hear islululalu-lalulalulalei?”

“Listen. You don’t need a magical first moment to meet your potential husband. The important things are mature character, financial responsibility, ability for commitment, compatible mission and values? “I actually met this girl again on her wedding, and before she marched downthe aisle, she whispered to me, “Do you hear the violin music, Bo? It’s loud and clear.”It doesn’t have to be love at first sight. In fact, marriages with the least adjustments are those between friends who’ve known each other for years before they realize that they’re good marriage material. What is love at first sight? Many times, it’s lust at first sight. Or infatuation at first sight. Don’t give it too much weight.

Here’s the truth: it takes a moment to experience infatuation but truelove takes a lifetime.

MYTH 3 : IF IT IS TRUE LOVE YOU WILL FEEL THIS WAY FOR EACH OTHER FOREVER

No, you won’t. Here are the consequences for believing this myth: You panic when the feelings wane, and wonder whether the marriage is overand whether you really loved one another in the first place. Imagine the night of your honeymoon. Your new bride is sleeping. The cotton curtains are gently swaying in the cool breeze. You gaze at her lovely face. You study her soft cheeks. Her long eyelashes. Her beautifulnose, her parted red lips. And all of a sudden, she snores.”Ngggggggooork” How do you react? Because it’s your honeymoon, you say, ‘How cute.’ Six months down the road, the same scene transpires. Your wife is sleeping. And the same cotton curtains are gently swaying in the coolbreeze. And you hear her snore.”Ngggggoork.”What do you say? “Ssssssheeeesh, Honey! You sound like a boat!”

What has happened? The feelings have gone. Let me say this: ‘That’s normal. It happens to everyone. But it doesn’t mean your love is gone so don’t panic! You can make a decision to love the snoring boat. You start blaming your partner for the loss of love. This is nutty. But many people do it: when we don’t feel in love, we think it’s the fault of the other person. And so we fight him. Again, we fall out of love because we’re human beings. It’s nobody’s fault. The moment you fall out of love, the real work begins.

Let me explain. This is the most important point I’m going to make. (I got this from ScottPeck in his bestseller book, The Road Less traveled)”Falling in love isn’t love.” Here’s why. When you fall in love?
a. No decision is required. Falling in love just happens.
b. No effort is required. Falling in love is like?. Well, falling.
c. No hard work is required. Falling in love is being bitten by the love bug.

On the other hand, true love requires all three : Decision, effort and lots of hard work. In the Bible, love is a command. You make it happen. Sure true love can only happen after you’ve fallen out of love. When you begin choosing to love, even if you don’t feel like doing it —-that’s true love. And that’s the foundation of a lasting marriage.

MYTH 4: YOUR PARTNER WILL FULFILL YOU COMPLETELY

Again because falling in love satisfied you completely —– you want the same satisfaction to last. No it won’t. Consequence? You might fail to recognize a good relationship because your partner isn’t fulfilling the needs you should be fulfilling yourself. Here’s the truth: the right partner will fulfill many of your needs but not all of them .There are just some things your husband can’t give you: you’re self-worth. Your spirituality. Your inner happiness. These are things you have to work on your own. I’ve met lots of people who think they’re dissatisfied withtheir marriage. In reality, they’re dissatisfied with themselves. I’ve met lots of people who think they’re bored with their marriages. And they complain to the high heavens how boring their husband or wife is —- when in truth, they’re really bored with life. Meet your own needs. Find your happiness in God. Find your niche, your calling, your destiny. And then share your joy with your spouse.

MYTH 5 : IF IT’S TRUE LOVE YOU WON’T BE ATTRACTED TO ANYONE ELSE

If you believe in this myth, you panic when you get attracted to someone else, questioning the authenticity of your love for your spouse. One man told me, ‘Bo, I love my wife. Or I thought I did. But then I met this woman at work. She has nice make-up. She smells nice. She wears a pencil-cut skirt. When I go home, my wife is wearing a drab rag. Her hair is undone. She smells of vinegar. Gosh I am attracted to this girl at work.”Being attracted to someone is normal —– even if you have a happy marriage. But being attracted doesn’t mean falling into adultery.Every time you think of the other woman, discipline your heart and say,’Home, boy, Home!’ and escort your heart back to your wife. Because if you feed your attraction with fantasies and constantly think about the other woman, it grows. But if you starve your attraction, it dies a natural death.

But Long-distance relationships also have it’s good points. You learn to communicate more with the person and discover more about the other person before you engage in sexual means of expressing thy love. Besides, it’s also a test for both of you. If you can make it work despite the distance, then you know you are really meant for each other.

Absence diminishes little passions but increases great ones, as wind extinguishes a candle but fans a fire.